Since you're looking at this page, you may want improvements in your primary relationship.  Does it seem that you seldom talk?  Are there fewer fun times?  Is it difficult to compromise?  Are there arguments about differences in finances, child rearing and social choices?

Three entities exist in every couple; the individual, the partner and the relationship.  Many couples believe that, because each individual shows loving behavior and feels loving feelings, the couplehood can survive and function.

More is needed.  Research shows that if four out of five of the interchanges between individuals in a couple are positive, the couple will stay together.  Any smaller ratio indicates a dynamic that drives the couple apart.

Therefore, creating  a positive feeling and energy from these interchanges drives the challenge of couple work.  Often, improved communication can significantly influence the feeling within the relationship such that the ratio is achieved.  If s/he grew up in a home where communication was inadequate, those communication styles learned growing up do not work any better in the current relationship.  New tools must be learned.

Communication tools provide the couple with mutually acceptable strategies for creating boundaries, asking for change and providing information.  Under the anger and stress of couple dilemmas lies the love and attraction that brought you together.  To diminish the stress with clear communication can uncover the love to let it speak again.